If I were to write a personal add for a lover, what would I write? I havent given it that much thought till this morning over a cup of coffee and the realization that I will see Date for the first time in two months. A bit of background on Date is required, I think, so that people get an understanding of where I am going with this (and I don’t think he will mind).

Date and I met a few months ago over dinner, where I just about died from choking on a sautéed mushroom…yes, I am THAT cool! Date is married, in an open marriage for about two years. He is 6’4” and about 250 pounds. He has light brown hair, blue eyes and the sweetest laugh. A self-proclaimed geek (which I think was bang on); Date has just turned forty but has the best boyish smile. His cock is great, always at the ready and after he cums he is hard almost immediately.

When he hugs me, I feel like a waif in his arms…not only by the fact that he is literally a full foot taller than me but because he holds me really tight and kisses the top of my head. He knows the places I want to be touched when we are in public and alone, and how to drive me wild before we have even finished the main course. He isn’t afraid to have sex in public places and lets me suck his cock when ever I want…which is probably one of the first things I think of when I see him smile as I walk toward him…that and how wonderfully he kisses.

He isn’t afraid to explore my body, with his hands, fingers, tongue and isn’t afraid to explore in public venues. It turns me on like crazy when he comes in close to talk to me during dinner and takes the opportunity to pinch my nipple or run his nose up my neck to my earlobe.

My other ‘dates’, both male and female, have been similar in that I can tell right off the pin if I am attracted to them. They vary in appearances, aside from the fact that they have different ‘tackle’. Women I have dated have been younger and older than me, blonds, brunettes; lesbians, bisexuals and married. The men have ranged as well, older, younger, brunettes, facial hair, fit hard bodies and normal guys. I have been fortunate that all have been great kissers, which is HUGE for me, but some have been more forceful whereas others have let me lead. I think I am getting a better idea, as I get out there and explore my sexuality and my sexual needs/tendencies, what I am looking for.

1. Universal aspects of a sexual partner that will truly allow me to open up sexually must be funny. I love to laugh and enjoy myself, both inside and outside of the boudoir. I love having fun in bed, sex is fun and like laughter, it feels good so why not relax and enjoy it.

2. Intelligence is very important to me and not for the purpose of politically-charged discussions (god knows I get enough of that at work) but to engage in small talk on current events, weather, religion, politics, social contexts, whatever! I like to be with someone that actually turns me on intellectually…challenges me, stimulates me, frustrates me.

3. I find that confidence is very sexy…but walks a fine line with arrogance which is the BIGGEST turn off. If someone I am with is confident, it makes me feel at ease and in turn confident. If someone is meek or too shy, then I feel like I need to overcompensate. There is no flow to the conversation…and ergo the sex would fucking suck! When I am with a man, I love when he is more dominant, kisses me first, touches my face, makes me feel like I am with a ‘man’ and not a ‘boy. BUT…when I am with a woman, I tend to take that role…I kiss her first, I touch her face, run my fingertips along her jaw line and down her neck to her collarbone. It is me that will undue her bra first and slide my hands under the back of her shirt and wrap the around to the front. I want to make her moan in my mouth…among other things.With a man, I want him to make me moan….

4. Creativity and a love of things creative is also huge turn on…but who doesn’t love a creative lover!

5. The BODY…the lure or hook for many…what do I want in terms of physical characteristics…that I saved for last! Okay, so, thanks to Twitter, I have been exposed to so many sexual practices and have done my own exploring. CFNM, Swingers, BDSM, open marriages, cheaters, pornographers…it’s all out there. I find that when I explore the ‘Lifestyle’ sites and other multiple partner sites, I love the idea of threesomes, foursomes, multiple-somes but the pictures are intimidating. Predominately it is the woman who has pictures and their body is gorgeous…thin, tight generally nude or in lingerie.

Although I want to add them to my ‘Wish list’ I just cant do it! What I like about Date, is his unencumbered confidence in his body. He has recently lost about 100 pounds and although is in good condition, he is not ‘tight’ and nor does he apologize for it. I think that I find that the most attractive about him…simply by being comfortable in his skin, he makes me comfy in mine and therefore I feel open to fully exploring sexually with him, no hang ups.

I will admit that I am first attracted to the ‘face’…eyes, smile, TEETH, defined jaw line, and then shoulders and of course cleanliness (I have a thing with body odour…immediate turn off, kind of like bad teeth). I love strong shoulders but those are pretty much my only absolutes. Body hair, heavy, thin, bald, short hair, long hair, big cock, small cock, tight titties, big boobs, big bum, small hands…Its is just superficial. If you are confident in your skin and have a killer smile, I am putty in your hands. I am just not hung up on bodies…other than my own.

Maybe the kind of the person that I take on a sexual partner is someone who wants to take me on and has a killer smile to boot…and can make me laugh while we are naked in a mess of sheets after hours of exploring each others ‘flaws’.

All of a sudden, I filled with sound of Date’s laugh, whispers and moans…not to mention the feel of his cock in my mouth, cum on lips and balls in my palm.